Advice my Grandfather gave my parents when they got married: 1. Be gentle in your actions toward each other. Never use physical violence such as striking or kicking at any time. 2. Never use profane or vulgar language to each other at any time and do not permit the use of such in your home. 3. Regarding alcohol: Total abstinence is the only policy. Never accept or drink an alcoholic beverage of any kind, and never permit alcohol in any form in the home, even for cooking. Avoid acquaintances who use alcohol. 4. Never use tobacco in any form. Avoid having ashtrays around the house, they only encourage visitors to smoke. Your house will be cleaner, and the air purer. 5. In health problems, accept the services and take the advice of your physician. Avoid excessive self-medication. In particular, avoid the use of barbiturates and other sleeping pills, and the use of tranquilizing drugs. Aspirin works better when not used in excess. Have regular hours for eating and sleeping and try to have a balanced diet. Be moderate in all things. 6. Always live within your income. Borrow money only for long-range things like owning a home, and for household articles that will last you a long time. Every family should have at least one new car, but some families must wait longer than others. Save regularly some fixed amount, even though it may be small. Do not use your savings for any purpose except for the definite betterment of the home and family. Permit the one of you who shows the greater ability to take care of the family budget. Experience will show you who is the proper one. 7. Always say grace at meals. Attend church regularly, and contribute substantially to the financial support of your church. Be reverent. 8. If an occasional disagreement should happen, never go to sleep at night without putting your arms around each other and asking each other's forgiveness. 9. Count on the affectionate support of your parents in any worthwhile action. However, self-reliance is an excellent virtue in a young married couple. Remember that no situation will be a catastrophe that cannot be met by the combined resources of all our families. 10. You have decided that you are meant for each other. Be constant in this belief and you will find it will always be true. Never permit anything to come between you, you will never have any difficulty that your love will not overcome.